Dad with history of domestic violence charged with murdering mom, apparently during visitation exchange (Isipingo, South Africa)

I can just hear all the ridiculous complainers and blamers. Why didn't she leave him? She did--ALMOST 8 YEARS AGO. And she was still viciously murdered.

The problem? They had children. And although UNNAMED DAD had a history of domestic violence and abusive threats, HE STILL HAD VISITATION with their children. That's what happens when we rank fathers rights above the rights of everybody else. And even though this mother had obtained numerous orders of protection, Mom still had to be "civil" with Dad and subject herself to additional risk when it "involved" the children.

We know that shortly before her murder, the tires on her car were slashed--apparently by Daddy. And when Daddy was dropping off the kids at Mom's house, he "allegedly" locked the kids in a bedroom, wrapped plastic around Mom's head, and slashed her throat.

So did these kids benefit from having Daddy in their lives? I'd say NO. All this did was encourage Daddy's sense of entitlement and further traumatize the children. Now those kids have been robbed of their mother in a terribly brutal way--all because the fathers rights people have convinced everybody that every daddy must be "involved." No matter how much of a criminal he is.

And after all this, the same kids are being "cared for" by the "alleged" killer's OWN MOTHER.

Sickening, but we see this all the time. Why do the families of killers get custody of the kids after Mom has been murdered???

We need to stop coddling violent fathers. If you're abusive, NO CUSTODY OR VISITATION. Sorry, but YOU LOSE.

http://www.themercury.co.za/mum-s-throat-slit-1.1108653

Mum’s throat slit
July 29 2011 at 02:53pm

JOLENE MARRIAH

AN ISIPINGO father of two will appear in the Durban Magistrate’s Court today in connection with his ex-wife’s murder. Beverley Naicker, 34, was found dead in her Lotus Drive, Isipingo, home on Monday evening.

There was a plastic packet over her head and her throat had been slit open with a steak knife.

Police spokesman Captain Thulani Zwane said the man was arrested by police in the Isipingo area a few hours later. He is 36 years old but cannot be named until he appears in court.

Naicker’s family have expressed shock. Her brother Bradley Naicker said his former brother-in-law had previously threatened to kill his sister. But no one thought it would end this way.

Possessive
 “My sister and her husband were legally divorced for eight years. She divorced him because he was extremely possessive and would often abuse her. She tried to maintain a civil relationship with him because of their two children.

Naicker said his sister had obtained numerous restraining orders against her ex.

In 2005, the couple tried to work things out when their second child was born. However their attempts failed.

“He continued to make her unhappy and in 2006 she decided not to have anything further to do with him, unless it involved the children.”

Naicker said that his sister had recently started a new relationship. He was not sure if this triggered the attack.

According to Naicker his mother Tilly had spoken to his sister at around 6.05pm – minutes before the attack.

“She told my mother she was waiting for the children to arrive from their father’s home and that she was going to prepare supper for them.

“She asked my mother to call back at around 7pm. At exactly 7pm we tried calling Beverley on her cellphone and the landline but there was no answer.

“For 15 minutes we continually tried the landline and eventually a stranger, supposedly the neighbour, answered the phone and told us that Beverley had been stabbed.

Car tyres slit

“We rushed to the scene, but she had already been declared dead by paramedics.”

According to Naicker both children had been locked in a bedroom.

Beverley, an export co-ordinator at BP in Nandi Drive, was described by her colleagues as lively and bubbly.

“We worked with her for 10 years and even though she had her problems she was always positive.”

A colleague who did not want to be named said Beverley was troubled after her car tyres were slit on Sunday evening.

“She suspected her ex-husband but was afraid to confront him.”

Naicker said the children were currently living with their father’s mother.

“We haven’t decided on anything,” he said.

The funeral is expected to take place on Saturday.