Custodial dad charged in murder of mom (Lenoir County, North Carolina)

Once again, we see what a pack of lies we've been fed by the fathers rights people. We've been told for decades now that daddies only act out violently because they're so "frustrated" by all the "discrimination" they receive at the hands of the family courts. None of it's true, of course. But that doesn't keep them from repeating the same falsehoods over and over again.

This case is proof of the lies.

Notice that "alleged" murderer and daddy GRANT HAYES was CUSTODIAL. Though Mom attempted to get custody of these two young boys (as is still her legal right in America, at least for now), she lost. Daddy even managed to relocate, something the fathers rights people want to prohibit custodial mothers from doing. This father, who is accused of a gruesome violent crime, managed to get "emergency" custody--something manipulative abusers have a keen ability to negotiate. Mom, no doubt feeling entirely defeated, played nice and "agreed" to letting Daddy have "temporary custody" while she got nothing but weekend visitation with her very young sons. (Note that even in backwards, authoritarian "father friendly" countries like Saudi Arabia, mothers are granted temporary physical custody of children this young, even if they don't have the right to permanent legal custody. In America, mothers don't even get that much anymore.)

So Mom was defeated. Was Daddy happy yet? Ready for his victory dance? Nope. Because for abusers, it's never enough power, never enough control. So Daddy stands accused of murdering and dismembering this woman when she came to pick up the kids at Daddy's house for her visitation. Just had to have total power in a big Daddy Drama blood fest, didn't we?

http://www.wcti12.com/news/28674027/detail.html

Custody Battle For Kinston Woman And Murder Suspect's Children
By Megan Cassell / Reporter
POSTED: 6:21 pm EDT July 26, 2011
UPDATED: 2:08 pm EDT July 27, 2011

LENOIR COUNTY -- We're getting new information on the bitter custody battle between Laura Ackerson and Grant Hayes. Hayes had custody of the children he fathered with Ackerson. So where are the boys tonight?

The 2 children of Grant Hayes and Laura Ackerson are reportedly with Hayes' parents...for now. It appears the children were at their grandparents' house at the time of their father's arrest, but Hayes and Ackerson had been battling for custody for months, so it's unclear who will get custody in the long-term.

Ackerson filed a complaint against Hayes in September of 2010. She wanted custody of her 2 boys. At the time, Hayes lived in Manhattan, but by the time he filed a counter complaint on May 17th, of this year, he was living in Wake County.

Hayes got a lawyer and was awarded emergency custody of his children on June 15th. That document reads "the defendant (Hayes) is the fit and proper person to have the care, custody, and control of the minor children."

The Department of Social Services evaluated the children at the time their father was arrested and released them to the custody of "family members" We went to check on who has the kids, but no one was at the Hayes' Kinston home to talk to us about the children.

The most recent legal custody arrangement was made on June 29th. That's when Hayes and Ackerson filed a consent order It reads "the parties and attorneys have agreed to settle the issues of temporary child custody by executing this consent order." Under this agreement, Ackerson would have visitation with her children on the weekends, but primary temporary custody would go to Hayes. They agreed on every detail from sleeping arrangements for the kids to who would take their youngest to a doctor's appointment in Cary on July 2nd. Hayes, Ackerson, and both their children were also supposed to go through child custody forensic psychiatric evaluation. The children and their parents were supposed to go back to court September 15th to see if the consent order was working for everyone and to review their psychiatric evaluations.

Grant Hayes' parents have not filed a petition with the Lenoir County court for temporary custody -- even though the children are staying with them.

Grant Hayes also has an infant with his wife, Amanda. That child is not part of this custody battle.