You may think that Mom sounds like a delusional saint, but really, she has no choice but to play this role. According to the now official pro-daddy ideology, we must never, ever say negative things about the paternal gamete provider that gave us children. Even if you split up with the dude well before the baby was born. And his real life actions are irrelevant--in fact, you will face penalties for bringing up reality-based concerns. It's like a bizarro religion, really.
So no matter how freaking inept or neglectful daddy is, we must say he's wonderful when cued. Notice that even with fathers who are mass killers, the media dutifully seeks out daddy enablers to bleat what a "nice guy" or "devoted dad" the killer daddy was.
Had this been a boozer mom, she'd be roundly condemned as a horrid monster. But not so with boozer dads like SHAWN WEIMER. Total double standard.
And notice how the next generation of young women (i.e. the daughter) is being primed to put men's comfort first, and their own safety last. She's only worried about boozer dad and the "trouble" he's in. She's not allowed to be angry about the dangerous situation he deliberately put her in.
9-year-old driver: Girl's mom says dad needs help
Oct. 20, 2011
BY ELISHA ANDERSON
DETROIT FREE PRESS STAFF WRITER
The mother of a 9-year-old seen driving her father's van on surveillance video says she wants the girl's dad to get help.
Shawn Weimer, who is suspected of being drunk early on Oct. 8, allowed his daughter to drive while he rode in the passenger seat, police said.
"I was mortified when I found out," said Heather Hammon, the girl's mother. "That he would even consider doing something like that, putting her in that kind of danger."
Weimer, 39, of Brownstown Township can be heard on the surveillance video telling a Citgo gas station clerk that his daughter drove them there.
Hammon, 36, of Lincoln Park said it was upsetting to watch the video. She said she wants Weimer to get alcohol treatment and take parenting classes.
"I want him to get himself better," she said. "I don't want him to go to prison."
Weimer and his attorney, Michelle Aaron, couldn't be reached for comment Wednesday. On Tuesday, Aaron said she didn't have enough information to say whether Weimer has a drinking problem.
Hammon said Weimer loves his child, pays child support and is involved in her life. He is self-employed and owns Core-Drain Sewer Cleaning, according to county records.
"He's a good dad. He just made a bad choice," she said.
Weimer, who is charged with child abuse and as a habitual offender, has been ordered not to have contact with his daughter.
Hammon said she hopes her daughter will be able to resume contact with her father, even if it is supervised. "As far as she's concerned, he's the best dad," she said.
The parents haven't been together since before the girl was born. Weimer spent two weekends a month with his daughter, taking her to the zoo and beach, Hammon said. The girl also has a four-wheeler at his house.
"Other than riding around on a four-wheeler, I had no clue she had ever been behind a wheel before in her life," Hammon said.
Police who interviewed the girl said it appears she has driven before, but Hammon said the 9-year-told her it was her first time.
Weimer picked his daughter up at 6 p.m. from her mother's house the night before his arrest and didn't smell of alcohol or appear to be intoxicated, Hammon said.
The ordeal has been overwhelming for the girl.
"She's pretty emotional and she's worried about her dad," Hammon said. "She's worried about the trouble that he's in."