Son abandoned by custodial dad is "flourishing," getting to know "estranged" mother (Lakeview, Minnesota)

This is one of those stories where a lot has been left unsaid. Older news accounts kept claiming how great and loving this father was--but great and loving parents don't abandon their children like this, even when they lose their jobs. And how and why did this father get custody? We've never been told. Only that the mother was "estranged"--a word that tells us nothing. Was this guy abusive and controlling, and shut her out from their very beginning? Given the subsequent irresponsibility of dad STEVEN A. CROSS, and Mom's current efforts to reconnect with her child, I suspect this is a distinct possibility. I've often seen this with abusers--including my ex. They want total control of the children--until they don't want it because it's inconvenient. Everything must be on THEIR terms.

http://www.upi.com/Top_News/US/2011/09/29/Minn-boy-deserted-by-dad-is-doing-well/UPI-13901317310702/

Minn. boy deserted by dad is doing well
Published: Sept. 29, 2011 at 11:38 AM

LAKEVILLE, Minn., Sept. 29 (UPI) -- A Lakeville, Minn., father accused of abandoned his son in July is now seeking regular visitation with the boy.

Steven A. Cross, 60, who faces charges of child neglect, appeared in Dakota County Juvenile Court Wednesday, asking for regular visitation with his son Sebastian, the (Minneapolis) Star Tribune reported.

Cross allegedly left for California July 18, leaving only a note for Sebastian, 11, to find when he woke up.

The note told Sebastian to stay with his best friend and neighbor Charlie Pahl, where he stayed until Aug. 17, when an emergency hearing was held about whether the boy was in need of protective services.

Judge Richard Spicer said Wednesday visitation would be decided after Cross is released from jail. Cross is being held in Dakota County jail in lieu of $5,000 bail.

Sebastian is now living with his maternal aunt Kimmie Porter, a licensed foster care provider in Minneapolis who also cares for the boy's 16-year-old sister.

Porter said Sebastian is "flourishing" and is busy with school and getting to know family, including three more brothers, his estranged mother and extended family.