Dad kills 3-year-old daughter in murder-suicide after "voluntary visitation" arranged (The Netherlands)

We've posted on this case before, but I'm still having trouble following the sequence of events.

So we have an UNNAMED DAD with a history of violent threats (and probably violent actions), and yet it's okay to arrange a "voluntary visitation" with his 3-year-old girl, in order to placate him? After which his "aggression subsided"? The little girl is just a tool to calm a crazy freak? Her best interests don't matter?

Apparently no to all the above. Nobody gave a crap about this little girl's interests, as she has now been shot dead by her crazy @$$ father. And offering her up as a sacrifice to "calm" the same crazy @$$ dad didn't work so well either, did it?  And then there's all the bullsh** Daddy Drama police standoff/hostage drama thing, with the injured mother. This guy should have had his butt locked up long ago.

Funny how in general it is recognized that negotiating with terrorists is pretty much a waste of time at best, and encourages them at worst. But when the terrorist is called Daddy, suddenly everybody needs to cater to his whims and give him what he wants RIGHT NOW before he really has a temper tantrum. So everybody caves in, and STILL little children are killed.

Stop negotiating with violent fathers or granting them access.

http://www.nltimes.nl/2013/11/15/dead-father-reuver-1-5-hours-later/

Death father Reuver 1.5 hours later

Posted by Audrey Graanoogst on 14:54 CET, Friday, 15, November, 2013

The father who killed his 3-year-old daughter last week in Reuver, committed suicide an hour and a half later, determined the forensic doctor, based on the difference in body temperature.

The 44-year-old man shot his ex-partner in her leg Thursday morning and held his daughter hostage for hours in the home of his former in-laws. Around 12.30 police negotiators established contact with the man for the last time. At that time it seemed the father wanted to talk and considered surrendering.

A period of two hours followed in which there was no contact. Officers stormed the house and found the father and his daughter dead on a bed.

It was determined that the two loud sounds that were heard in those two hours, were definitely not shots fired, reported the Public Prosecution. Possibly it was the sound of furniture being pushed to barricade the door.

Shortly after the incident it was already clear the family had been in the scope of emergency services. The Public Prosecutor now writes the man had threatened to hurt his ex-mother in law is she wouldn’t tell him where her daughter stayed. He also threatened the ex-girlfriend.

Voluntary visitation was arranged for the father and his daughter, after which the aggression subsided, according to the prosecution.