Nobody ever learns, do they....
Dad CAREY ADAMS had a history of violence against women, including his son's mother. We're told (with striking naivete) that up till now he had never harmed any children. SO?
Actually, just by abusing the mother a batterer is in fact abusing the child. This is the child's caretaker, and if the child witnesses abuse or experiences the stress that the mother is living with, that child is impacted.
Studies have shown over and over again that violent men who have abused the mother are at very high risk of directly hurting the kids as well, even if they haven't (knowingly) hurt the child up until now. Abusers are narcissists. They see people as extensions of themselves. Even if they aren't pissed off at the kid per se, they still see abusing or killing the child as a way to get back at Mom for leaving his sorry @$$, and as a way to reassert his "control" over the situation. That is why abusers ESPECIALLLY ABUSERS WITH HISTORIES OF MURDER/SUICIDE THREATS should NEVER have access to the kids. But the courts still do this all the time. And mothers know if they don't "cooperate" with these terrorists, that the courts will come down on THEM for being "alienating." We've set up a situation where a mother can seldom win.
Toddler Shooting Suspect Had Violent Past
By Jasmine Spencer, Reporter
POSTED: Jul 14 2012 05:04:02 AM EDT UPDATED: 9:13 PM Jul 17 2012
The father who deputies say shot and killed his three-year-old son in Grifton Friday had a violent past, according to court records.
Pitt County investigators now say the shooting was motivated by an ongoing domestic dispute between Carey Adams and his estranged wife, the toddler's mother. Her identity has not been released to the public, but investigators say she did take a restraining order out against Adams in the past.
According to the North Carolina Department of Corrections website, in 2006, Adams was convicted of Assault With a Deadly Weapon and Felony Breaking and Entering. In 2008, Adams was convicted of Possession of a Firearm by a Felon and Communicating Threats.
Pitt County Sheriff's investigators said in a news conference Adams had three different domestic violence protective orders filed against him in the past. The different woman files protective orders against Adams in 2001, 2002 and 2010, including the mother of the Jesse Adams, the son deputies say Adams killed.
In all three orders, officials said Adams either threatened or attempted suicide over the phone. In 2001, Adams shot himself in the chest after a domestic argument but survived.
Officials said there is no report of any domestic violence to Adam's children, until the shooting on Friday.
According to deputies, the child's mother called 911 on Friday after receiving a call from Adams, in which Adams said he had just shot the couple's child. Deputies rushed to the scene, and as they walked toward the home, they heard Adams fire the final shot. They say that was the shot with which he killed himself.
Carey Adams initially survived that shooting, but deputies say he died Sunday afternoon at the hospital.