How fathers rights works: Call it "child's welfare" when children, moms have NO rights (Dubai)

This is such bullsh**. But like I say, if you want to know how fathers rights works, check out the countries where it's institutionalized. Divorce laws that are legally and BLATANTLY discriminatory in favor of men (not the whiny, unsubstantiatied stuff that men scream about in the U.S.). Fathers get legal custody. Moms only get physical placement--and then only temporarily. Need I go on?

http://www.thenational.ae/news/uae-news/courts/divorce-law-focuses-on-childs-welfare?pageCount=0

Divorce law focuses on child's welfare
Bana AL Qabbani

Jul 18, 2011

DUBAI // The personal affairs law can seem confusing for those seeking divorce and custody, but it puts the needs of children first, experts say.

Divorce cases cannot be heard until the moral and family guidance section at Dubai Courts has examined them. Only after a committee there deems reconciliation is unlikely can a couple file with the court.

Legally speaking

The justice system affects just about every aspect of life in the UAE, from millions of work contracts to custody battles to simply dealing with noisy neighbours. But it can often seem intimidating for those on the outside. The National's reporters open the doors to the courthouse.

A husband may file for any reason but if he does so without a legitimate grievance he must compensate his wife according to Sharia, and the judge sets the amount.

But a woman can file for divorce only if she is suffering personal harm or her husband has abandoned her. If those conditions do not apply, she can make a settlement to be granted a divorce. The payment may be no larger than the dowry.

Expatriates seeking divorce can choose to use the laws of their home country. But the personal affairs law applies if the couple fail to agree on their country's law, if they fail to provide an attested copy of that law to the court, or if there is no provision in the foreign law related to litigation. Under the personal affairs law, children are placed in the mother's care until a certain age when custody is transferred to the father.

"The law lays the framework that the son stays with the mother until the age of 11 and the daughter until the age of 13 but that is not final," said Mohammad Al Redha, of Al Redha and Co Advocates and Legal Consultants. "The judge can determine whether it should be extended until the age of puberty for a boy and for a girl until she gets married."

The father must support the children and provide a standard of living similar to what they had when they were living with him.

"Child support includes clothes, food, medical costs, accommodation and schooling. If the mother owns the home she lives in, then the father may be exempt from paying for housing," Mr Al Redha said. "As time progresses … if the mother finds that child support is not enough as education and food costs rise, she can ask for an increase and the judge will look into her request."

The father has certain rights, including visiting. "It is mandatory for the husband to always provide the alimony for children as long as he is able to do so, until his daughters marry or when they can earn enough, and until his sons reach the age of 15 and are able to earn enough, except if the son is still pursuing his education successfully," said Musalam Tawfiq Al Khazraji, of Zayed Al Shamsi Advocates and Legal Consultants.

"The ultimate objective of the custody is to benefit the children under guardianship, even if this contradicts the interests of the father."

Bahy Al Gandy, a legal consultant at International Advocate Legal Services, cited a recent case of an Egyptian couple with two children - a boy, 8, and a girl, 10.

"The father had a drinking problem and used to have relationships outside of his marriage," Mr Al Gandy said. "His wife filed for divorce based on personal harm and the court ruled in favour of the mother and gave her custody of the children. If the father does not request custody for six months after the child has reached the legal age, then he waives his rights to custody."

A woman may lose custody of a child if she remarries, if she is prosecuted for a crime or neglects her children. But exceptions can be made if she marries a foreign man and the child is still young enough to need their mother, Mr Al Khazraji said.

balqabbani@thenational.ae

* With additional reporting from Vesela Todorova

Dad murders wife, 5-year-old son; dad's father dies of cardiac arrest (Vellore, India)

Familicide crimes are certainly not limited to the west. In this case, dad B RAMESH is accused of torturing his wife, and finally murdering her by slitting her throat and the throat of their 5-year-old son. Note that like the western press, we see a "quarrel" and/or mom's alleged "infidelities" blamed for causing the torture/killing ("infidelities" are a common obsession/delusion among controlling and violent men, especially alcoholics like this guy. But obviously, that's not pointed out here, is it? Nor do Mom's so-called actions explain that vicious murder of a child, do they?) We need to start calling out these crimes for what they are instead of indulging the abuser's warped point of view.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/chennai/Man-murders-wife-son-his-father-dies-of-shock/articleshow/6916579.cms

Man murders wife, son, his father dies of shock
TNN, Nov 13, 2010, 05.23am IST

Tags:Timiri in Vellore district Nambarai village

VELLORE: In a gruesome incident, a 30-year-old man allegedly murdered his wife and five-year-old son by slitting their throats in Vellore district. His 70-year-old father, who came to know about the incident, died of cardiac arrest.

Police said B Ramesh from Nambarai village near Timiri in Vellore district, who came back to his native town after working for two years as a carpenter in Dubai, quarrelled frequently with his wife Uma Maheshwari, as he suspected her fidelity.

The carpenter and his family had just moved to a new house five days ago. Ramesh, an alcohol addict, physically tortured his wife often. Unable to bear the torture, Uma sought her father Mani's help. He visited her on Tuesday and suggested that she return to her native place in Veerupatchipuram near Vellore. However, she did not do so and that proved to be fatal.

In the wee hours of Thursday, Ramesh in an inebriated condition attacked his wife with a knife. He later slit her and their son's throats and left them to bleed to death. The local residents who spotted Ramesh with blood-stained cloths, raging in a loud voice, alerted the police who rushed to the spot and found the woman and the child dead in a pool of blood. Both had cut injuries all over their body.

Police produced Ramesh before a local court that remanded him in judicial custody. Meanwhile, Ramesh's father Balakrishnan, 70, who was shocked to learn about his son's brutal act, died of cardiac arrest.

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