Friday, July 2, 2010
Survivor of domestic violence hosted at conference (Fairfield, Connecticut)
This case illustrates how phony the whole "parental alienation sydrome" label is. The badmouthing or "alienation" that this father perpetrated against the mother did not happen as part of a discrete "syndrome." It was just one part of his arsenal to utterly control and destroy her life and the life of their children.
http://www.minutemannewscenter.com/articles/2010/07/01/fairfield/news/doc4c2ca9f681b19415956302.txt
Fairfield hosts survivor of domestic violence
Published: Thursday, July 01, 2010
By Meg Learson Grosso
Susan Still shared with police, prosecutors, and advocates for victims of domestic violence, just how she could have stayed as long as she did with the man who almost killed her. Last Friday morning, at a seminar at Fairfield Police Headquarters, attended by police from many of the surrounding towns, as well as by prosecutors, victim advocates and judges, Still told her story, one which has already been featured on ABC’s 20/20 with Diane Sawyer.
Susan Still and her husband Ulner Still had been together for 24 years, when she left him in 2003. They had a 21-year-old daughter, a 13-year-old son and an 8-year-old son. Her 13-year-old was forced to videotape Ulner’s verbal abuse and physical abuse of his mother. While verbal abuse occurred during the last ten or so years, the physical violence only occurred in the last two. Ulner Still beat and punched his wife and almost strangled her.
The videotapes show a woman standing utterly still while she listens to her husband call her "stupid" numerous times in 36 minutes.
Lynn, her boss at an insurance office, noticed one day that Susan Still had a wound on her head and asked her about it. She also noticed that Still said, "Yes Master" and "No Master," when she spoke to her husband on the phone.
Behind closed doors, Susan Still told her boss what was happening, but begged her not to tell anyone. Her boss agreed, and told her she was there for her. She also began to document on her calendar when Still came in with visible bruises. This later turned out to be the only reason that the judge was able to give Ulner Still the longest sentence ever given to a perpetrator of domestic violence whose victim did not end up dead. The dates and times of the observed bruises, noted by her boss, gave a third party’s objective evidence.
Still later told a Minuteman reporter that this would be the most important thing that she would advise someone who knows someone in an abusive situation to do.
Still decided to escape after "a horrendous weekend." She went to work as usual, trying to cover her bruises with make-up. Her boss said, "This has got to stop." Susan picked her 8-year-old up from elementary school while police picked the 13-year-old up from middle school. Her 21-year old sided with her father, even testifying for him.
Why did she finally leave?
"I knew that if I stayed any longer, I was going to die," said Susan Still. She is unusual for a domestic violence victim because she knew when she left, that she would never go back, she said.
On ABC’s 20/20, Diane Sawyer asks her what she sees when the videotapes show a woman standing still while she listens to her husband call her "stupid" numerous times in 36 minutes.
"I see a woman desperately seeking to salvage whatever she can of her family," said Still.
Her children joined in the verbal abuse because they knew what would happen to them if they didn’t. Her husband would turn on them. They had been brainwashed, Still said. She, herself, thought for a long time that if she could only "fix" herself, everything would be fine.
"How does that happen?" Susan Still rhetorically asked on Friday morning. "I was not a person that grew up with poor self-esteem. I was fine with myself and so I wondered how I ended up in a whole different place and I didn’t understand that until I got out." Only through counseling did Susan Still begin to believe differently.
"In the original videotape, you’d be able to see how he took a statement that I made and change it into something entirely different," said Still of her former husband. "So my brain was kind of split into two. Half was trying to stand there correctly and to give him respect. I was trying to explain myself out of any trouble I was in. If I could only do things right, this wouldn’t be happening. Anything I could do to fix it, I would, but the other half of my brain still had common sense. The other half said, ‘When he comes at me, what should I do? Should I run out the door? Should I grab a child? If I run into a room, what can I grab to protect myself?"
When her daughter came home from work that day, her husband made the children sit and watch the video, while she was within his reach, so he could hit her when he critiqued her actions. "After that, I knew I would end up dying if I stayed," Still said.
Ulner Still also made a threat to the 13-year-old son who had gotten in trouble that week. Susan Still said, "It was one thing when he hurt me, but…when he made the threat to my son, that drew the line in the sand and I knew I would have to get out the next day."
"How did I get there? He had me programmed to believe that everything was my fault."
"I met my husband when I was 18 years old. We are very emotional creatures ... I was very much in love with my husband. He was very much Prince Charming. He made me feel loved, but how he made me feel loved was in the guise of caring. In the guise of caring, he took control."
Susan’s husband was in a band and traveled a great deal, so she would make plans to go out at night. He would say, "Oh, no, Honey, I don’t want you going out of the house after dark. It’s too dangerous. I want you to stay in the house," and she did unless it was to her mother’s. Eventually, even contact with her family was cut off. When she finally escaped, her mother met her at the police station, but she had no idea of the abuse.
One time, before the relationship deteriorated, Ulner was in a time zone that was twelve hours different. He called Susan in the morning—her time, thinking that it was night where she was as well. She wasn’t there and "I can’t tell you how many people were looking for me. He had a large family so it was like a small army looking for us."
Her children didn’t go out on play dates with other children. They pretty much did things as a family.
"After we got over this wonderful love we had, that’s when he started attacking the family." Susan said that when things went wrong for her husband, it would be, in his mind, the family’s fault.
If something was wrong with the cable bill, or something from a catalogue, Ulner would ask Susan to call. "I would say, why don’t you call, but he wouldn’t. If that call ended up in a way that he wasn’t happy, it was my fault."
That day on the video, her son had asked her for lunch and then gone upstairs with her husband. She made the lunch and then asked herself, "Do I ask my son if he wants lunch or leave him alone with my husband? Which decision was right?"
Today, she realized that even to have to mull over a question like that is ridiculous, but, at the time, making the wrong decision, "meant being knocked on the floor."
She also knows today that whatever decision she had made, it would have been the wrong one, because to her husband, it was all about power and control.
He turned her children against her. When he asked them to criticize her, they did, because they knew that if they were quiet, he would turn on them, Still said.
Her older daughter was subsequently on Oprah, after she had received many years of counseling and when Oprah asked what she was thinking as she watched her Mom being abused, her daughter said, "It was just part of our lives. I just thought it was regular life.…We just listened to him and thought, this is what is supposed to happen."
Susan told the police assembled in Fairfield on Friday morning, that it is important to understand that the children’s reaction will be different from a policeman’s. "For you, this is a horrible sight and unacceptable," she said, but the children will not want you to take their father away. Neither will the wife. The wife knows that if you take the husband, he will be back, and so she has to be ready for what’s going to happen when he comes back, Still said.
"You’re not dealing with stranger on stranger crime. There’s love involved here. Love doesn’t stop because they punch you in the face and for a child, Dad is usually second to God. They love this man so, understand you may not always get the response that will be logical to you," Sill said.
There may be dynamics between the children as well, said Still, telling of how her children were interrogated separately at the police station, but when the younger son was questioned, he could see his older brother and mother through a glass pane in the door. The advocate covered the pane and moved the child so he could not even see the door, where his brother was glowering at him.
Her husband manipulated the children to choose him over his wife, by among other things, telling her that she was not allowed to hug and kiss the children, without letting the children know that he had done so. Then he would say to them, "She doesn’t love you. Did she kiss you good-night last night?"
When he found one time that she had hugged and kissed them, he punched her until her ear drum was broken.
Nonetheless, when the prosecutor told Still that her children would have to testify against their father, "She sounded like a monster to me," said Still, who, at that time, didn’t want the children to be responsible for putting their father in jail.
Ultimately, she realized that they had to do it. "I knew I couldn’t let my children see him win again."
Dad convicted of soliciting teen daughter for sex; will spend 270 days in jail (Jackson County, Michigan)
http://www.mlive.com/news/jackson/index.ssf/2010/07/man_accused_of_soliciting_his.html
Man accused of soliciting his daughter for sex will spend 270 days in jail
Published: Thursday, July 01, 2010, 12:15 PM Updated: Thursday, July 01, 2010, 1:45 PM
Danielle Quisenberry Jackson Citizen P...
Calling his conduct “very bizarre,” Jackson County Circuit Judge Thomas Wilson sentenced a man accused of soliciting his daughter for sex to 270 days in jail.
Wilson also placed the 36-year-old, who already has spent 167 days in jail, on probation for five years.
“I don’t see you have any redeeming characteristics,” Wilson told the man, whom he called “bottom of the barrel.”
The man was accused of calling his 16-year-old daughter on Jan. 15, using lewd language and telling her he wanted to have sex with her and had for “a while now,” according to a court document. She told him, in a recorded conversation, he was her father and the idea was “gross.” The happening prompted a Michigan State Police probe.
A day later, the girl’s mother called police when the man again called and told her he was going to have sex with her or her daughter. He said he would be at their residence in Sandstone Township in 10 minutes, according to the document.
A sheriff’s deputy responded and found him hiding in a tree line, according to the report.
The prosecutors’ office at first charged him with a first-degree criminal sexual conduct crime, but that charge was dismissed in exchange for his May no contest plea to accosting a child for immoral purposes, a felony.
He pleaded no contest, which is not an admission of guilt but is treated like one by judges, because he was “high” at the time and did not remember what happened.
His lawyer, George Lyons, told Wilson the man needed drug and alcohol abuse and psychological counseling. He said he agreed the man’s actions were “outright bizarre.”
“I take full responsibility,” said the man, whose name is being withheld because his daughter has the same last name. The Citizen Patriot typically does not name victims of sex crimes.
In April, the man and the girl’s mother were divorced. Court records, however, indicate they had lived separately since 2002 and for a period before 2002.
His former wife, who said she cared for their children during that time, has sole custody of the girl and the couple’s 13-year-old son.
In her divorce filing, the woman alleged the man never paid child support or had a steady job. She said he lived with his parents when he was not incarcerated and did not spend time with his children. He is not capable of competently performing the duties of parenthood, she wrote.
Dad gets death penalty in murder of pregnant girlfriend, two daughters (Santa Clara, California)
http://www.mercurynews.com/breaking-news/ci_15423192?nclick_check=1
San Jose jury: Put man who killed family to death
By Tracey Kaplan
tkaplan@mercurynews.com
Posted: 07/01/2010 04:45:27 PM PDT
Updated: 07/01/2010 10:27:39 PM PDT
After enduring testimony about the grisly way Rodrigo Paniagua Jr. slaughtered his family, a Santa Clara County jury today took the rare step of voting for his execution — the first time a local panel has imposed the death penalty in 13 years.
The jury of nine women and two men took 21/2 days to agree on the ultimate punishment, rejecting an impassioned argument by defense attorney Traci Owen emphasizing Paniagua's lousy childhood and his sisters' pleas that his life be spared. In early June, the same jury took less than two hours to convict Paniagua of arson and four first-degree murders.
Paniagua crept into the bedroom where his pregnant girlfriend and young daughters were sleeping in October 2005 and stabbed them multiple times as they struggled to fend him off. He then set their bodies on fire and went outside and smoked a cigarette. For years beforehand, he had terrorized his family, blackening girlfriend Leticia Chavez's eye and threatening to kill her, slapping 3-year-old AnaLisa in the face and belting 6-year-old Adrina.
As the verdicts were read to a hushed courtroom filled with the victims' relatives and lawyers eager to learn the outcome of the rare capital case, Paniagua had no visible reaction. But Chavez's mother broke out into loud sobs, and a juror dabbed at her eyes with a tissue, as seven armed sheriff's deputies stood guard in case anyone lost control.
Joins death row
None of the jurors could be immediately reached for comment. But legal observers said the jury was likely swayed by the particularly violent way the little girls died. They noted that Scott Peterson, who killed his wife and unborn child, also got the death penalty in a familial case that involved fewer victims.
Paniagua, 33, will join about 700 other condemned killers in California on death row. However, extensive legal challenges are likely to delay his execution date for some 20 years. Owens had asked for a mistrial because two jurors appeared to be nodding off at one point and because of an emotional outburst by Chavez's relatives.
The last time local prosecutors persuaded a jury to impose the death penalty was in 1997, when three Nuestra Familia gang members — James "Huevo" Trujeque, Herminio "Spankio" Serna and Bobby Lopez — were sentenced to death for multiple killings.
Currently, county prosecutors have only one other capital case pending — that of Melvin Forte, who is charged with kidnapping, raping and fatally shooting Ines Sailer in January 1981. Forte is currently serving life in prison on a murder conviction out of San Francisco. He became a suspect in Sailer's death after a positive DNA hit in 2006.
In light of Thursday's Paniagua verdict, prosecutors also are all but certain to seek the death penalty in an upcoming trial against Samuel Corona for allegedly stomping 6-year-old Oscar Jimenez Jr. to death.
Domestic violence
Outside the Hall of Justice, Chavez's relatives expressed gratitude to the jury and praised prosecutor Matt Braker. The family was split over the death penalty, but united against allowing Paniagua to plead guilty in exchange for a sentence of life without parole.
"My daughter and my grandchildren didn't get a choice, so why should he?" Chavez's mother, Dorothy Gutierrez, said. "We're happy now; our girls can finally rest in peace."
The killings have been so painful for Chavez's family that many of her relatives remain in therapy, including the teenage cousin staying with her at the time of the killings, who woke up to find the house on fire and the little girls slain.
Chavez's uncle, Robert Gutierrez, said Chavez was exposed to domestic violence at an early age, which may have normalized the behavior and blinded her to the possible outcome.
"She grew up with that thing: 'I have to stick with my guy,' '' he said of his late niece. He added that Chavez never thought Paniagua would kill her, even though he had threatened to five years earlier.
In an e-mail, Paniagua's sister Rachel said she will stand by her brother for the rest of their lives and praised attorney Owens for her stalwart defense. Rachel and another one of Paniagua's sisters, Cynthia, testified during the trial about severe abuse they and their brother endured at the hands of their father. The women said they were angry with Paniagua for the killings, but implored the jury to spare his life.
"My family and I were hopeful for a different outcome and prayed to God to help all affected by this tragedy," Rachel said in the e-mail. "The verdict does not change how we feel about our brother/son/Jr. or take away the pain we feel inside, and it definitely doesn't stop us from missing my Comadre Letty and my nieces. We wish they were all here, every day."
Dad charged with 1st-degree murder in death of 14-month-old son; admits to "bouncing" on the toddler's chest (Denver, Colorado)
Dad JARED JIMINEZ faces 1st-degree murder and child abuse charges in the death of his 14-month-old son. Seems Daddy admits to "bouncing" on the toddler's chest before he died. What a sick f***.
http://www.9news.com/news/article.aspx?storyid=142216&provider=top&catid=188
Document: Father bounced on 14-month-old's chest
written by: Jeffrey Wolf 20 hrs ago
DENVER - A father told investigators he was wrestling with his 14-month-old son and then said he bounced on his son's chest before the toddler died, according to a police statement of probable cause.
Jared Jimenez, 26, faces charges of first-degree murder and child abuse resulting in death in the death of his son, Jared Jimenez Jr.
The elder Jimenez also faces charges of child abuse and two counts of possession of a controlled substance.
The 14-month-old was taken to the emergency room of Lutheran Hospital on June 25 where he died.
When he arrived with his son, Jimenez told hospital workers the toddler had fallen out of his crib, according to the police document.
Later, while talking to Denver Police, Jimenez admitted he sat on his son and demonstrated how he used his entire body weight to bounce on his son's chest. He also admitted he had cocaine, crack and marijuana inside his home, according to the police document.
New charges filed against dad in infant son's death (Vincennes, Indiana)
Rest in peace, little Kayden.
INVISIBLE MOTHER ALERT: The original article we posted on this case made no mention of the baby's mother. And even in the aftermath of the baby's death, there is STILL no mention of the mom. Did Daddy find this baby in a cabbage patch or what?
http://www.wibqfm.com/news/articles/2010/jul/02/new-charges-filed-against-father-sons-death/
New Charges Filed Against Father in Son's Death
Posted Friday July 2, 2010 6 hours, 23 minutes ago
Vincennes (WIBQ)-Charges against a father accused of beating his infant son to death were increased Thursday. 26-year-old Christopher Thomas of Vincennes now faces a charge of battery on a child causing death. Originally he had been charged with child abuse causing bodily injury. But when his son died, prosecutors increased the charge against him. Six week old Kayden Thomas, died two days after emergency crews responded to the home for a report of a child not breathing.
Dad arrested for abuse of 5-month-old son (Transylvania County, North Carolina)
http://www.blueridgenow.com/article/20100702/ARTICLES/7021017/1042
Father charged with child abuse
Transylvania man: Baby fell, hit furniture
By John Harbin
Times-News Staff Writer
Published: Friday, July 2, 2010 at 4:30 a.m.
Last Modified: Thursday, July 1, 2010 at 7:42 p.m.
A Transylvania County man was arrested last week and charged with felony child abuse after the Department of Social Services investigated injuries sustained by his 5-month-old son.
Terrance Deron Lewis, 43, of 4015 Old Hendersonville Highway, Pisgah Forest, faces one felony count of child abuse inflicting serious injury, said Transylvania County Sheriff’s Office Detective Brian Kreigsman.
The investigation began after Lewis and the 5-month-old’s mother took the baby to Transylvania Regional Hospital last week, he said.
“The hospital decided to transport the child to Mission Hospital and contacted DSS about the child’s injuries,” he said.
Lewis originally told officials that his son fell, and the injuries were from the child hitting a piece of furniture, Kreigsman said.
“The injuries were not consistent with a fall,” he said. “The State Bureau of Investigation drafted the warrants, and Lewis was arrested on June 22.”
He is being held in the Transylvania County jail under an $80,000 secured bond.
Dad gets 9 years after shooting at "estranged" wife, threatens to kill daughters (Toledo, Ohio)
Sadly, we see the mom parrotting the near mandatory line these days about how she still "loves" this man "because he is the father of my three children." The same guy who threatened to kill said children, but oh well. Father exaltation is so entrenched these days, that nobody is allowed to say "I don't love this guy, he's a son of a bitch." Because all mommies have to stay "sweet" you know. Never allowed to get angry. That's not nice. And we are required to be nice, no matter what. Even when your own children are threatened. Sickening and completely unnatural.
http://toledoblade.com/article/20100701/NEWS02/7010369/-1/news02
Article published July 01, 2010
Toledo man gets 9 years after chasing, shooting at estranged wife
A Toledo man who threatened his family, shot into his home, and pursued his estranged wife in a vehicle while firing a shotgun at her was sentenced in Lucas County Common Pleas Court Wednesday to nine years in prison.
Victor Rodriguez, 39, also known as Victor Saenz, pleaded no contest last month to two counts of felonious assault, one with a three-year gun specification, and one count of discharging a firearm into a habitation with a one-year gun specification. Judge Gary Cook followed the recommended sentence and ordered him to prison for five years on each of the charges, to run concurrently, plus an additional four years for gun specifications.
As part of the agreement, 12 other charges were dismissed.
During an emotional statement made to the court, Rodriguez's wife, who has since filed for divorce, said that she had felt trapped for most of her 21-year marriage. It was when she had the courage to leave that Rodriguez called up his daughters and said he would kill them, she said.
"They watched through the blinds from a neighbor's house and saw him shoot into the home," she said. "Yes, I love that man because he is the father of my three children but it will take a long time to forgive that man."
Rodriguez apologized to his daughters and insisted he would not have hurt them.
He added he had been suffering from depression at the time of the June 17, 2009, incident.