More on custodial "waterboard" dad; he and the mother have been in "lengtly custody battle" (Seattle, Washington)

Seems that "waterboard" dad JOSHUA TABOR had just gained physical custody of his 4-year-old daughter 4 weeks ago. He and the mother, who legally have "shared custody," have been involved in a "lengthy custody battle" according to the account below.

In the real world, "lengthy custody battle" is a common euphemism for a situation where the father is abusive and controlling, and insists on inflicting his will on everyone else. Some idiotic judge thought it would be a good compromise to give this child to each parent for 5 months, which is utterly insane. There is no child development literature supporting this. In fact, if you want to raise an insecure child with profound attachment difficulties, this is the way to do it.

Given Daddy's apparent "anger issues"and abusive and delusional personality, it doesn't surprise me in the least that he cut off this little girl from phone calls with her grandmother, and took away the stuffed animal the grandmother had sent. This is very typical of abusers--must have that total control, you know.

There is no explanation as to why the grandmother had custody of the girl at an earlier time, or what issues were involved with that. Unless I see some evidence that the mother was abusive or neglectful, it's looking to me like Grandma has some control issues too. Especially the way she is outflanking her daughter in court and not working with her. We'll see.

http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/localnews/2011015680_webyelmgirl08m.html

Fort Lewis soldier charged with abusing 4-year-old, holding her head in water
A Fort Lewis soldier has been charged with assault after he allegedly put his 4-year-old daughter under water because she couldn't recite the alphabet.

By Susan Gilmore

Seattle Times staff reporter

A Fort Lewis soldier has been charged with assault after he allegedly held his 4-year-old daughter mostly under water because she couldn't recite the alphabet. Charging papers equated the technique to torture.

The incident came to light Jan. 31, when Joshua Tabor's girlfriend called police and said he was walking around their Yelm neighborhood, wearing a Kevlar vest and threatening to break windows, according to Thurston County Superior Court charging documents.

When officers arrived, Tabor's girlfriend told them that she and Tabor, 27, had just had an argument and that he beats his daughter, said Yelm police Chief Todd Stancil. Officers found the girl hiding in a locked bathroom and covered with extensive bruises all over her body, including her ears.

"Once she spoke to officers, she was articulate and told us right away, 'Daddy did this,' " Stancil said.

The girl told officers that her father hits her, and she also said he would fill a sink, lay her on her back and put her head into the water until the water was up to her eyes, Stancil said.

According to Stancil and charging papers, Tabor told officers he used the water technique as a way to have his daughter learn the alphabet. "He felt she was academically behind for her age, and it was his way of trying to get her to learn," said Stancil.

Charging papers say Tabor "did not act as though he felt there was anything wrong with this form of punishment."

Prosecutors also allege Tabor would force his daughter to sit in urine-soaked clothes "until he gives her permission to change" as punishment for wetting herself.

Tabor is restricted to the Fort Lewis base during the investigation, said Stancil. He is scheduled to appear in court Feb. 16 for arraignment.

Stancil said officers called Child Protective Services, and a foster family took the girl to a hospital to make sure she didn't have serious injuries.

The girl had been staying with Tabor for six weeks. Tabor and the girl's mother, who lives in Kansas, had been involved in a lengthy custody battle and were supposed to share custody. The girl was to stay with each parent for five months, Stancil said.

The child had been raised by her maternal grandmother, who lives in Montana, since she was born. Stancil said the grandmother has already filed papers to regain custody.

According to Stancil, Tabor wouldn't let the girl talk to her grandmother and took away a stuffed animal she sent. Police have since let her speak to her grandmother and returned the stuffed animal.

"She wanted to go back to Montana," Stancil said. "When we let her talk to [her grandmother] she was so excited she was crying."

Stancil said Tabor's girlfriend might also be charged in the case. "How can something go on for a month and a half and not know anything about it?" he said. "

Stancil said the girl's mother also came out from Kansas, but returned home without the child. "The grandmother beat her to the punch by filing the paperwork prohibiting [the mother] from being around her until the courts sort it out."