We just posted on killer dad GRAHAM ANDERSON last night. Now we find that this "thug"--in the words of the Daily Mail--was a custodial father, and has been since last May! Had custody less than a year, and slaughtered his two sons in order to punish Mom for being in a new relationship.
Notice that Graham got custody DESPITE an extensive history of domestic violence against the mother! Including multiple assaults that he was even jailed for.
This POS was an unemployed, abusive loser who was extremely controlling. We already know that this is exactly the type who is likely to use the kids to hurt the mother. The research is very clear on this. Abusive partners are at extremely high risk of becoming child abusers or killers--even if they (supposedly) haven't hurt the kids before. Especially after a separation or divorce.
So here's the big question that's left unanswered here. Who allowed this scumbag killer to have custody of two young boys? Who thought that was a good idea? Since they were previously in foster care, somebody must have made the decision to give a battering father custody. Who was it? Let's see the names.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2197365/Graham-Anderson-Murdered-father-Thug-kills-sons-mother-finds-new-partner.html?openGraphAuthor=%2Fhome%2Fsearch.html%3Fs%3D%26authornamef%3DNick%2BFagge
Murdered by their father: Thug kills his sons after their mother finds a new partner
The bodies of Graham Anderson, 36, Bryn, three, and Jack, 11, were found on Saturday
The three were found at Anderson's rented flat in Wiltshire by the landlord
The father had split from Victoria Jones, the mother of the boys, earlier this year
She listed herself as 'in a relationship' just days before the tragedy was discovered
By Nick Fagge
PUBLISHED: 18:24 EST, 2 September 2012 | UPDATED: 18:13 EST, 3 September 2012 .. The violent past of the father who killed his two sons and then himself emerged last night.
Graham Anderson had been jailed last year for attacking the boys’ mother, Victoria Jones.
The bodies of their boys, 11-year-old Jack and three-year-old Bryn, were found at their rented family home in Tidworth, Wiltshire, on Saturday.
Anderson had hanged himself in another room. His landlady made the horrific discovery when she let herself in to the flat to show prospective tenants around.
Police are trying to determine how and when the children died.
Friends say Anderson, an unemployed removal man, was a jealous brute whose 16-year relationship with Miss Jones was punctuated with violence and accusations of infidelity.
The 36-year-old is said to have snapped when he found out she had moved on and settled down with another man.
‘Everyone knew what he was like,’ said a school friend. ‘He was always violent towards Victoria. He made her life a living hell. They were constantly getting into rows and he would turn really nasty.
'He was a very jealous type. One time after they split up, he went round to her house and smashed the whole place up to get back at her. He broke all the windows.
‘When he found out Victoria was moving on with someone else, something must have just snapped in his brain.’
Anderson was jailed for six months last August for multiple assaults on Miss Jones and a friend he suspected of sleeping with her. Magistrates in Basingstoke, Hampshire, were told he had punched, slapped and pushed the 31-year-old to the ground during a series of violent rows in July last year.
Despite the brutality Miss Jones appealed for clemency for Anderson, telling magistrates she hoped to get the family back together.
However she had recently formed a new relationship and, in the early hours of August 26, changed her status on her Facebook page from single to being in a relationship.
Anderson won custody of his sons in May after they had spent some time in foster care.
Detectives yesterday released a photograph of him in an appeal for help in finding out what he and his sons were doing in the days before they died.
‘It is very important that we establish the movements of Graham Anderson and the boys between Saturday August 25 and Saturday September 1,’ said Detective Chief Inspector Ian Saunders, who is leading the murder investigation.
‘We are gathering CCTV footage from shops in Tidworth and from buses which run through the town.
‘He was a regular bus user and I now need to trace his movements and those of the boys during the week leading up to the discovery of their bodies at lunchtime on Saturday.’
Uniformed officers were still on guard outside the flat yesterday.
Dozens of well-wishers yesterday left flowers and teddy bears at the entrance to the block.
Tuesday, September 4, 2012
Dad shoots 10-year-old son dead in failed "bullet proof" charm test (Nigeria)
Just goes to show there are no cultural boundaries to stupid.
Dad is identified as ORNGUGA ADEGA. No mention of where the mother was when Dad was carrying out his "bullet proof" charm experiment.
http://www.informationnigeria.org/2012/09/father-shoots-son-dead-in-failed-bullet-proof-charm-test-gone-fatal.html
Father Shoots Son Dead In Failed “Bullet Proof” Charm Test Gone Fatal
Posted by daniel in Home » Lifestyle, Nigerian News on September 2, 2012
I would have thought that if you get a charm that allegedly turns you into a living ‘bullet proof’ beign you’d test it first on yourself and nobody else. Well, Ornguga Adega, of Agbatse village in Kwande local government area of Benue state will be realizing that too late now.
In a bid to test the potency of his newly acquired bullet proof ‘juju’, Ornguga Adega had shot his only son dead while conducting a gunshot test on the boy. According to news reports, the alleged suspect was immediately arrested by men of the Benue State Police Command and is currently facing trial at a Makurdi Chief Magistrate Court.
According to the First Information Report, FIR, by the police, the suspect and father of the ten- year- old had, in August 2012, bought some charm from a native doctor with the belief that it was potent enough to prevent the penetration of bullets into his body. He was said to have rubbed his ‘bullet proof’ cream on the body of his son in order to verify its efficacy and potency in line with the instructions of the native doctor from whom he bought the charm.
According to the FIR, Adega fired a shot with his single barrel gun on the right leg of his son which resulted in pellets from the bullet shattering the leg and also penetrating through to the left leg. The boy was said to have bled profusely but before his shocked and devastated father could get proper medical attention for him, the little boy bled to death.
When the case came up at the Makurdi Chief Magistrate Court, police prosecutor, Inspector Gabriel Egbonyi, said the accused was arrested at the process of investigating the cause of death of the young boy.
Egbonyi further told the court that the accused confessed to committing the crime and also acknowledged responsibility for the unfortunate incident which prompted further police investigation into the matter.
Meanwhile no plea was taken for want of jurisdiction. However the prosecution said investigation was still in progress in the matter and asked for another date for hearing.
The Chief Magistrate, Mr Dan Ogoh, ordered that the accused be remanded in prison custody and adjourned the case to 12 September.
The case is as clear as daylight but we will just have to let the law complete its cycle of justice. That man is not fit to be called a father and deserves the same punishment: he should be tied to a stake, the ‘bullet proof’ cream rubbed all over his body and then, hot lead pumped into his body, maybe it might just work this time around.
Culled From Vanguard
Dad is identified as ORNGUGA ADEGA. No mention of where the mother was when Dad was carrying out his "bullet proof" charm experiment.
http://www.informationnigeria.org/2012/09/father-shoots-son-dead-in-failed-bullet-proof-charm-test-gone-fatal.html
Father Shoots Son Dead In Failed “Bullet Proof” Charm Test Gone Fatal
Posted by daniel in Home » Lifestyle, Nigerian News on September 2, 2012
I would have thought that if you get a charm that allegedly turns you into a living ‘bullet proof’ beign you’d test it first on yourself and nobody else. Well, Ornguga Adega, of Agbatse village in Kwande local government area of Benue state will be realizing that too late now.
In a bid to test the potency of his newly acquired bullet proof ‘juju’, Ornguga Adega had shot his only son dead while conducting a gunshot test on the boy. According to news reports, the alleged suspect was immediately arrested by men of the Benue State Police Command and is currently facing trial at a Makurdi Chief Magistrate Court.
According to the First Information Report, FIR, by the police, the suspect and father of the ten- year- old had, in August 2012, bought some charm from a native doctor with the belief that it was potent enough to prevent the penetration of bullets into his body. He was said to have rubbed his ‘bullet proof’ cream on the body of his son in order to verify its efficacy and potency in line with the instructions of the native doctor from whom he bought the charm.
According to the FIR, Adega fired a shot with his single barrel gun on the right leg of his son which resulted in pellets from the bullet shattering the leg and also penetrating through to the left leg. The boy was said to have bled profusely but before his shocked and devastated father could get proper medical attention for him, the little boy bled to death.
When the case came up at the Makurdi Chief Magistrate Court, police prosecutor, Inspector Gabriel Egbonyi, said the accused was arrested at the process of investigating the cause of death of the young boy.
Egbonyi further told the court that the accused confessed to committing the crime and also acknowledged responsibility for the unfortunate incident which prompted further police investigation into the matter.
Meanwhile no plea was taken for want of jurisdiction. However the prosecution said investigation was still in progress in the matter and asked for another date for hearing.
The Chief Magistrate, Mr Dan Ogoh, ordered that the accused be remanded in prison custody and adjourned the case to 12 September.
The case is as clear as daylight but we will just have to let the law complete its cycle of justice. That man is not fit to be called a father and deserves the same punishment: he should be tied to a stake, the ‘bullet proof’ cream rubbed all over his body and then, hot lead pumped into his body, maybe it might just work this time around.
Culled From Vanguard
Dad kills 3- and 11-year-old sons after the mother separates from the father (Tidworth, Wiltshire, England)
Good God, does no one write in clear English anymore? Dad and his two sons are found dead. We're told the deaths are "suspicious" but that no one else is being sought in connection with the deaths. We are also told--much later--that Dad and Mum had separated.
It doesn't take a rocket scientist to connect the dots. If the deaths are not by accident or natural cause--if they are "suspicious"--then we are talking about somebody deliberately taking the lives of others. If no killer is being looked for, then the implication is that one of the three dead persons was the killer. Somehow, I'm thinking that the 3- and 11-year-old boys were probably not responsible. Therefore, it must be Daddy. So why not just say so? Why not just say that we have another loser killer dad who killed the kids because Mum left his sorry @$$? Why not point out that another unstable, violent man was provided access to two vulnerable children, and so he snuffed out their lives in order to "punish" Mum? And that this scenario has become depressingly common and not "unusual" in the slightest?
Rather than indulge in all the faux woo woo mystery, why not ask hard questions regarding this man's history of domestic violence (including controlling behaviors) and why the children were not secure in their mother's care after she finally left him?
Dad is identified as GRAHAM GORDON ANDERSON.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2196972/Wiltshire-deaths-Horror-man-36-children-aged-11-dead-flat.html?ITO=1490
Horror as man, 36, and two children aged three and 11 are found dead in flat
Bodies of Graham Gordon Anderson, 36, and two sons discovered at a home in Tidworth, Wiltshire
Police are not looking for anyone else in connection with the 'terrible incident'
By Daily Mail Reporter
PUBLISHED:17:37 EST, 1 September 2012| UPDATED: 13:35 EST, 2 September 2012
Police have launched a major investigation after the bodies of a father and his two sons were found at a flat.
Officers were called to the scene after paramedics made the grim discovery in Tidworth, Wiltshire.
Inside they found the body of Graham Gordon Anderson, 36, in one room and those of the children, aged three and 11, in another.
It is understood an ambulance was called just after 1pm on Saturday after someone claimed to have seen a dead man inside the flat and that two children were also there.
Police said they are treating the deaths as suspicious but are not looking for anyone else in connection with the deaths.
The property has since been cordoned off and a full forensic examination is being undertaken by crime scene investigators and a pathologist.
The Wiltshire coroner has been informed and post-mortem examinations are to be conducted.
The police investigation is being led by Detective Chief Inspector Ian Saunders, of the Brunel Major Crime Investigation Team.
An incident room has been set up at Marlborough police station.
Det Ch Insp Saunders said: 'I am extremely keen for any sightings of Graham Anderson with the two children between Saturday 25 August and Saturday 1 September.
'He was a regular bus user and I now need to trace his movements, and those of the boys during the week leading up to the discovery of their bodies at lunchtime yesterday.'
Earlier, Det Ch Insp Saunders said detectives were 'unsure' what had happened before the three died.
'At this early stage we cannot be sure what has led up to this terrible incident, but I can say that we are treating the tragic deaths of the two children as suspicious,' he said.
'I am not looking for anyone else at this time in connection with this incident.
'The mother of the children has been informed and we are seeking to contact other family members.
'Our thoughts are with the family and friends of those who have died.'
The alarm was raised yesterday afternoon by Mr Anderson's landlady, who was due to show prospective new tennants around his flat in Auchinleck House, Sidbury Heights.
To her horror, she discovered the bodies of the father and his sons.
Det Ch Insp Saunders said the case was an extremely tragic one.
'I can say that we are not looking any third party involvement,' he added.
Since then, police have launched a major investigation - carrying out extensive door-to-door inquiries in the area.
Initial information revealed the last known activity in the flat was on Thursday morning.
However, a key piece in the jigsaw will be the results of the post-mortem examinations.
This evening, an examination of Mr Anderson's body is being conducted at Flax Bourton near Bristol.
Tests on the bodies of the two boys are likely to be conducted over the next couple of days in Southampton.
A specialist team of officers has also been assigned to support shell-shocked family members.
Among them, is the boys' mother - who is said to have separated from their father.
'It has clearly been a shock for her to find out and she is very distressed," said Det Chief Insp Saunders. 'But she will be given the best possible support we can provide.'
The tragedy has also sent shockwaves through the rural town of Tidworth and the Sidbury Heights estate - which is home to many families.
Neighbours have continued to leave flowers, soft toys and messages of condolence outside the building's main entrance.
As police staged a press conference outside the house this afternoon,
Superintendent Matt Pullen told the gathered crowd: 'Obviously the deaths has caused shock in the local community.
'Our heartfelt sympathies go to the families of the deceased.
'Local police are intimately involved with the inquiry to ensure we provide an appropriate presence and reassurance at this difficult time.'
Anyone who has information that may assist police is asked to call Wiltshire Police on 101 and ask for the incident room, or if they wish to remain anonymous they can call Crimestoppers on 0800 555 111.
It doesn't take a rocket scientist to connect the dots. If the deaths are not by accident or natural cause--if they are "suspicious"--then we are talking about somebody deliberately taking the lives of others. If no killer is being looked for, then the implication is that one of the three dead persons was the killer. Somehow, I'm thinking that the 3- and 11-year-old boys were probably not responsible. Therefore, it must be Daddy. So why not just say so? Why not just say that we have another loser killer dad who killed the kids because Mum left his sorry @$$? Why not point out that another unstable, violent man was provided access to two vulnerable children, and so he snuffed out their lives in order to "punish" Mum? And that this scenario has become depressingly common and not "unusual" in the slightest?
Rather than indulge in all the faux woo woo mystery, why not ask hard questions regarding this man's history of domestic violence (including controlling behaviors) and why the children were not secure in their mother's care after she finally left him?
Dad is identified as GRAHAM GORDON ANDERSON.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2196972/Wiltshire-deaths-Horror-man-36-children-aged-11-dead-flat.html?ITO=1490
Horror as man, 36, and two children aged three and 11 are found dead in flat
Bodies of Graham Gordon Anderson, 36, and two sons discovered at a home in Tidworth, Wiltshire
Police are not looking for anyone else in connection with the 'terrible incident'
By Daily Mail Reporter
PUBLISHED:17:37 EST, 1 September 2012| UPDATED: 13:35 EST, 2 September 2012
Police have launched a major investigation after the bodies of a father and his two sons were found at a flat.
Officers were called to the scene after paramedics made the grim discovery in Tidworth, Wiltshire.
Inside they found the body of Graham Gordon Anderson, 36, in one room and those of the children, aged three and 11, in another.
It is understood an ambulance was called just after 1pm on Saturday after someone claimed to have seen a dead man inside the flat and that two children were also there.
Police said they are treating the deaths as suspicious but are not looking for anyone else in connection with the deaths.
The property has since been cordoned off and a full forensic examination is being undertaken by crime scene investigators and a pathologist.
The Wiltshire coroner has been informed and post-mortem examinations are to be conducted.
The police investigation is being led by Detective Chief Inspector Ian Saunders, of the Brunel Major Crime Investigation Team.
An incident room has been set up at Marlborough police station.
Det Ch Insp Saunders said: 'I am extremely keen for any sightings of Graham Anderson with the two children between Saturday 25 August and Saturday 1 September.
'He was a regular bus user and I now need to trace his movements, and those of the boys during the week leading up to the discovery of their bodies at lunchtime yesterday.'
Earlier, Det Ch Insp Saunders said detectives were 'unsure' what had happened before the three died.
'At this early stage we cannot be sure what has led up to this terrible incident, but I can say that we are treating the tragic deaths of the two children as suspicious,' he said.
'I am not looking for anyone else at this time in connection with this incident.
'The mother of the children has been informed and we are seeking to contact other family members.
'Our thoughts are with the family and friends of those who have died.'
The alarm was raised yesterday afternoon by Mr Anderson's landlady, who was due to show prospective new tennants around his flat in Auchinleck House, Sidbury Heights.
To her horror, she discovered the bodies of the father and his sons.
Det Ch Insp Saunders said the case was an extremely tragic one.
'I can say that we are not looking any third party involvement,' he added.
Since then, police have launched a major investigation - carrying out extensive door-to-door inquiries in the area.
Initial information revealed the last known activity in the flat was on Thursday morning.
However, a key piece in the jigsaw will be the results of the post-mortem examinations.
This evening, an examination of Mr Anderson's body is being conducted at Flax Bourton near Bristol.
Tests on the bodies of the two boys are likely to be conducted over the next couple of days in Southampton.
A specialist team of officers has also been assigned to support shell-shocked family members.
Among them, is the boys' mother - who is said to have separated from their father.
'It has clearly been a shock for her to find out and she is very distressed," said Det Chief Insp Saunders. 'But she will be given the best possible support we can provide.'
The tragedy has also sent shockwaves through the rural town of Tidworth and the Sidbury Heights estate - which is home to many families.
Neighbours have continued to leave flowers, soft toys and messages of condolence outside the building's main entrance.
As police staged a press conference outside the house this afternoon,
Superintendent Matt Pullen told the gathered crowd: 'Obviously the deaths has caused shock in the local community.
'Our heartfelt sympathies go to the families of the deceased.
'Local police are intimately involved with the inquiry to ensure we provide an appropriate presence and reassurance at this difficult time.'
Anyone who has information that may assist police is asked to call Wiltshire Police on 101 and ask for the incident room, or if they wish to remain anonymous they can call Crimestoppers on 0800 555 111.
Monday, September 3, 2012
Custodial dad with history of sexual abuse shuts off all contact with mother (Berlin, Germany)
This story is about a Mom who has been denied all contact with her children since 2007. Today is her son's birthday. Her children were given to a father who is a sexual predator, and who filed for custody using fraud. This is an international matter, and we are asking all American citizens to call the United States Embassy and help this mom bring her kids home. The mom in this case has been denied all contact with her children since the fraudulent order in 2007- this mom has not heard her children's voices in years, and has no way of knowing if they are alright. Please take a moment to contact the US embassy in Berlin and ask them to assist this mom.
http://kufnertinakids.blogspot.com/
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Woman recalls childhood living with a sexually abusive father (New Glasgow, Nova Scotia, Canada)
Rapist dad DONALD FRANCIS MCLEAN has just been released from prison....
Notice how this piece of sh** was able to gain custody of his kids after the mother left the father. This is reality, folks.
http://www.ngnews.ca/News/Local/2012-08-31/article-3065661/Woman-recalls-childhood-living-with-a-sexually-abusive-father/1
Woman recalls childhood living with a sexually abusive father
Patricia Grosvold is recounting her story because she wants other victims of abuse to know they can overcome the ordeal.
Sueann Musick – The News
Published on August 31, 2012
NEW GLASGOW – Patricia Grosvold walked out of a local courtroom in 1993 with a weight lifted off her shoulders.
Her father Donald Francis MacLean had just been sentenced to 18 years and nine months in prison for sexually abusing her and her sisters. During the sentencing, Judge Clyde MacDonald called MacLean’s acts “torturous and horrendous” and at the time she thought 18 years seemed like forever.
Forever ended this week.
Seventy-seven-year-old MacLean finished his sentence and is a free man living without restrictions. He served nearly two decades for 26 convictions against 10 female victims of varying ages. Grosvold recently received a letter from the parole board stating that as of Friday, MacLean is no longer under the supervision of the justice system.
Seventeen of MacLean’s charges stemmed from incidents that took place in the 1960s and early 1970s when he and his family lived in Canadian Forces bases in Oromocto and Point de Butte, N.B. The remaining charges are from incidents that occurred when he returned to Pictou County in the late 1970s.
The majority of the assaults took place against his four daughters and two stepdaughters when they were between the ages of four and 19. The charges involve incidents ranging from fondling his four-year-old daughter and forcing her to perform oral sex to having sexual intercourse with a daughter in her early teens.
Several charges of assault causing bodily harm and of buggery involved his first wife when they lived in New Brunswick. Other counts involved one of his daughter's friends while they were living in the New Glasgow area.
He was said to have manipulated his victims through threats and by indicating the acts were what Jesus wanted.
“The only reaction I had this time is that you think 18 years is so long, but now 18 years is here,” she said. “I will admit my stomach churned and my little girl was very scared, but then I realized that he can’t harm me.”
Grosvold’s reactions are far from those of a scared woman. In the past, she has written to the parole board pointing out how her father has allegedly violated his parole agreement and recently she wrote The News letting the public know that her father’s sentence has ended.
She said the letter was to let other victims know, who might not have gotten the notification like she did from the parole board, that he could be walking towards them on the street some day.
“I wanted others to know that you may see him in Pictou County. I am going to protect them now. I don’t carry one ounce of shame.”
Grosvold credits her strength to the love of her husband and a strong faith in God, but she admits it was a long process to get to the point where she is today.
She was nine years old when her mother caught MacLean abusing her and shortly afterwards she moved in with her great-grandmother before living with her aunt full time.
Although the abuse stopped, MacLean still was able to visit Grosvold and as time passed and she married and raised her own family, he continued to have a presence in her life. He would visit their house for Christmas dinner, attend the same church and, at one point, stayed in her home.
“I was in the place where I felt I was his only victim and he was a changed man and never abused anybody else,” she said. “We never talked about it. During that time period, we never talked about it.”
She was separated from her sisters when her mother left MacLean, but he ended up getting custody back of everyone but her. He remarried and became a stepfather to the woman’s children, but they later divorced and he married his third wife who knew nothing about his past.
“Before he married (his third wife), I had asked him if she knows everything about his past,” Grosvold said. “He said, ‘Yes she does.’ I said, ‘Everything?’ And he said ‘Yes, she does and accepts me for who I am.’ It wasn’t until the charges were laid that she found out.”
Grosvold said she never realized he had abused other people until his name came up in another unrelated court case.
“I had received a phone call from a friend who asked me if I knew of a girl (of a certain name). She was taking her uncle to court for abuse and in the courtroom, one of the lawyers asked her if she was abused by anyone else and she said, ‘Yes, Donald MacLean’.
Grosvold didn’t recognize the name of the woman so she called her sister to find out if she knew her.
“I asked (my sister) and she said ‘Yes, she was a dear friend of mine growing up and we had sleepovers and went to the same church and everything.’”
Grosvold said when she told her sister that the woman had brought up their father’s name in court, the phone went completely silent before her sister said, “I need to go.”
Later that night, her sister called back Grosvold and told her she was starting to have flashbacks about MacLean abusing her.
“The majority of people who are abused do block it out,” she said. “Our mind is a wonderful thing and will do anything it can to survive. She had it in her boxes in her brain. As she started, she was opening up more and more boxes. She called me one day and said, ‘I want to press charges, but I can’t do it myself.’”
At first Grosvold refused, but her sister pleaded with her, saying she needed to do this.
“I said, ‘I live here in Pictou County. We go to the same church,’ but she really needed to do this and I said OK.”
It took four hours to tell her story to Westville Police Chief Don Hussher and it was the first time her husband had heard specific details about her abuse that started around the time she was four years old and continued until she was nine.
She said the case was complicated because the abuse occurred in many different provinces – requiring investigations in different provinces.
Crown prosecutors asked the victims not to let MacLean know about the investigation, but Grosvold said it was getting more and more difficult keep up a good face around him.
“It was getting close to Father’s Day and I was talking to Crown attorney Peter MacKay and I said to him, ‘You have to arrest him.’ At this point, we are still half talking to him because we aren’t letting him know what we are doing. I said, ‘I can’t do Father’s Day. I can’t go out and get him a card and pretend everything was OK.’”
When he was arrested a few days before Father’s Day in June 1993 at his work, unexpected feelings of guilt washed over Grosvold.
“It’s so weird. I knew the exact time they were going to arrest him, but I wasn’t prepared for feeling so guilty,” she said. “I remember calling my husband at work saying, he was arrested and I remember saying, ‘What have a I done?’ It was guilt, but believe me, it’s not there anymore. He was so controlling.”
The guilt wasn’t coming from her experiences or her feelings for MacLean, but instead it was guilt over the fact that she didn’t protect others from him.
“When I found out about the other ones abused, I went through tremendous guilt. I felt I should have protected them. I looked after my sisters. I was their mom. I should have protected my sisters.”
The adverse reaction in the community to MacLean’s charges didn’t help the situation, she said.
“The people in the church were divided,” she said. “Because the way we believe is that you have to have forgiveness and you let the past go. Some people didn’t understand why I did what I did. They were divided and some people wanted to stand for him. That hurt a lot. At the time period, because we weren’t allowed to discuss the case, they wouldn’t know how bad it was.”
To this day, people still ask her about forgiveness, but similar to the healing process, she said it must be taken in steps over time.
“I say to them, forgiveness comes in stages. You have to grieve for what was done to you. Because of what was done to you, that little girl died,” she said. “If someone comes up to you and says, ‘Forgive,’ I say, ‘Would you go to a person who just lost a child and them to get over it? No one would do that, so why would they expect us to do that?”
MacLean had originally pleaded not guilty to the charges, but changed his plea to guilty a month or so before the trial was set to begin.
Because offences against Grosvold dated back to 1959, there were no laws that covered her charges and that limited the number of charges laid against him in relation to her abuse.
“I remember thinking about everything that he did to me and he only got two years,” she said. The most charges he received time for were for (my sister). At the time, it made a difference to me because I was thinking I was abused by the age of four on a weekly basis, sometimes three or four times a week, and he got two years.”
But she says going through the court process helped her heal, because their “secret” was finally being told.
“It’s strange. I’ve talked to other victims and they have all felt the same way. No one wants to talk about the secret. Tell it. The very first person you tell it to is a big thing, I say to them. If a person tells you that secret, it’s an honour. We know you can’t fix it. All you have to do is listen.”
Grosvold also found peace by putting her words on paper and writing her feelings in a journal.
“One thing I wrote is that secrets have power. Unless you have been abused, it’s hard to understand. There are the feelings of guilt and shame that we did something wrong,” she said. “I can’t explain it to you. If we share the secret people will see the ugliness inside of us. It’s the ugliness. People will see that I am an ugly person. I thought even myself I was ugly. I was not worthy of anything. It’s a long process to get to the point where someone gets the courage and tells the secret.”
To this day, she continues to tell her story and about how she regained her strength to fight back, but instead of initiating the conversation, she lets a tattoo of a little girl on her left shoulder do the talking.
Grosvold said she found the little girl inside her one day after the trial as she stared into the mirror.
“I was upstairs and I looked in the mirror and it was the weirdest feeling and I said, ‘Where are you?’ I kept staring into my eyes. I made a contact with her. There are some women who don’t want anything to do with her, but I know she is one of the strongest people there could possibly ever be. She survived so much. She is safe now. It’s hard for someone who hasn’t been there, but for someone who has been there, if I say my little girl is afraid, they will know who I am making reference to.”
The tattoo is an image of a little girl with the wind blowing through her hair. Grosvold said it is a close rendition of herself as a child and capturing the wind was important because each time MacLean would abuse her, she would run outside and let the wind cleanse her.
She promised herself and her inner little girl that every time someone made a comment about the tattoo, she would answer with, “She has a story, do you want to hear it?”
Grosvold said most people who have approached her listen to her story and then share their own experiences of abuse.
“The biggest thing for me is I want people to know they are not alone. There is a life after this. This is not who I am,” she said. “I am not Patricia, an abused victim. I am Patricia, a mom, a wife, a worker. I am a survivor. I have survived and I will never allow it to conquer me again. I will never allow my voice not to be heard again. Don will not have the last word, I will.”
Notice how this piece of sh** was able to gain custody of his kids after the mother left the father. This is reality, folks.
http://www.ngnews.ca/News/Local/2012-08-31/article-3065661/Woman-recalls-childhood-living-with-a-sexually-abusive-father/1
Woman recalls childhood living with a sexually abusive father
Patricia Grosvold is recounting her story because she wants other victims of abuse to know they can overcome the ordeal.
Sueann Musick – The News
Published on August 31, 2012
NEW GLASGOW – Patricia Grosvold walked out of a local courtroom in 1993 with a weight lifted off her shoulders.
Her father Donald Francis MacLean had just been sentenced to 18 years and nine months in prison for sexually abusing her and her sisters. During the sentencing, Judge Clyde MacDonald called MacLean’s acts “torturous and horrendous” and at the time she thought 18 years seemed like forever.
Forever ended this week.
Seventy-seven-year-old MacLean finished his sentence and is a free man living without restrictions. He served nearly two decades for 26 convictions against 10 female victims of varying ages. Grosvold recently received a letter from the parole board stating that as of Friday, MacLean is no longer under the supervision of the justice system.
Seventeen of MacLean’s charges stemmed from incidents that took place in the 1960s and early 1970s when he and his family lived in Canadian Forces bases in Oromocto and Point de Butte, N.B. The remaining charges are from incidents that occurred when he returned to Pictou County in the late 1970s.
The majority of the assaults took place against his four daughters and two stepdaughters when they were between the ages of four and 19. The charges involve incidents ranging from fondling his four-year-old daughter and forcing her to perform oral sex to having sexual intercourse with a daughter in her early teens.
Several charges of assault causing bodily harm and of buggery involved his first wife when they lived in New Brunswick. Other counts involved one of his daughter's friends while they were living in the New Glasgow area.
He was said to have manipulated his victims through threats and by indicating the acts were what Jesus wanted.
“The only reaction I had this time is that you think 18 years is so long, but now 18 years is here,” she said. “I will admit my stomach churned and my little girl was very scared, but then I realized that he can’t harm me.”
Grosvold’s reactions are far from those of a scared woman. In the past, she has written to the parole board pointing out how her father has allegedly violated his parole agreement and recently she wrote The News letting the public know that her father’s sentence has ended.
She said the letter was to let other victims know, who might not have gotten the notification like she did from the parole board, that he could be walking towards them on the street some day.
“I wanted others to know that you may see him in Pictou County. I am going to protect them now. I don’t carry one ounce of shame.”
Grosvold credits her strength to the love of her husband and a strong faith in God, but she admits it was a long process to get to the point where she is today.
She was nine years old when her mother caught MacLean abusing her and shortly afterwards she moved in with her great-grandmother before living with her aunt full time.
Although the abuse stopped, MacLean still was able to visit Grosvold and as time passed and she married and raised her own family, he continued to have a presence in her life. He would visit their house for Christmas dinner, attend the same church and, at one point, stayed in her home.
“I was in the place where I felt I was his only victim and he was a changed man and never abused anybody else,” she said. “We never talked about it. During that time period, we never talked about it.”
She was separated from her sisters when her mother left MacLean, but he ended up getting custody back of everyone but her. He remarried and became a stepfather to the woman’s children, but they later divorced and he married his third wife who knew nothing about his past.
“Before he married (his third wife), I had asked him if she knows everything about his past,” Grosvold said. “He said, ‘Yes she does.’ I said, ‘Everything?’ And he said ‘Yes, she does and accepts me for who I am.’ It wasn’t until the charges were laid that she found out.”
Grosvold said she never realized he had abused other people until his name came up in another unrelated court case.
“I had received a phone call from a friend who asked me if I knew of a girl (of a certain name). She was taking her uncle to court for abuse and in the courtroom, one of the lawyers asked her if she was abused by anyone else and she said, ‘Yes, Donald MacLean’.
Grosvold didn’t recognize the name of the woman so she called her sister to find out if she knew her.
“I asked (my sister) and she said ‘Yes, she was a dear friend of mine growing up and we had sleepovers and went to the same church and everything.’”
Grosvold said when she told her sister that the woman had brought up their father’s name in court, the phone went completely silent before her sister said, “I need to go.”
Later that night, her sister called back Grosvold and told her she was starting to have flashbacks about MacLean abusing her.
“The majority of people who are abused do block it out,” she said. “Our mind is a wonderful thing and will do anything it can to survive. She had it in her boxes in her brain. As she started, she was opening up more and more boxes. She called me one day and said, ‘I want to press charges, but I can’t do it myself.’”
At first Grosvold refused, but her sister pleaded with her, saying she needed to do this.
“I said, ‘I live here in Pictou County. We go to the same church,’ but she really needed to do this and I said OK.”
It took four hours to tell her story to Westville Police Chief Don Hussher and it was the first time her husband had heard specific details about her abuse that started around the time she was four years old and continued until she was nine.
She said the case was complicated because the abuse occurred in many different provinces – requiring investigations in different provinces.
Crown prosecutors asked the victims not to let MacLean know about the investigation, but Grosvold said it was getting more and more difficult keep up a good face around him.
“It was getting close to Father’s Day and I was talking to Crown attorney Peter MacKay and I said to him, ‘You have to arrest him.’ At this point, we are still half talking to him because we aren’t letting him know what we are doing. I said, ‘I can’t do Father’s Day. I can’t go out and get him a card and pretend everything was OK.’”
When he was arrested a few days before Father’s Day in June 1993 at his work, unexpected feelings of guilt washed over Grosvold.
“It’s so weird. I knew the exact time they were going to arrest him, but I wasn’t prepared for feeling so guilty,” she said. “I remember calling my husband at work saying, he was arrested and I remember saying, ‘What have a I done?’ It was guilt, but believe me, it’s not there anymore. He was so controlling.”
The guilt wasn’t coming from her experiences or her feelings for MacLean, but instead it was guilt over the fact that she didn’t protect others from him.
“When I found out about the other ones abused, I went through tremendous guilt. I felt I should have protected them. I looked after my sisters. I was their mom. I should have protected my sisters.”
The adverse reaction in the community to MacLean’s charges didn’t help the situation, she said.
“The people in the church were divided,” she said. “Because the way we believe is that you have to have forgiveness and you let the past go. Some people didn’t understand why I did what I did. They were divided and some people wanted to stand for him. That hurt a lot. At the time period, because we weren’t allowed to discuss the case, they wouldn’t know how bad it was.”
To this day, people still ask her about forgiveness, but similar to the healing process, she said it must be taken in steps over time.
“I say to them, forgiveness comes in stages. You have to grieve for what was done to you. Because of what was done to you, that little girl died,” she said. “If someone comes up to you and says, ‘Forgive,’ I say, ‘Would you go to a person who just lost a child and them to get over it? No one would do that, so why would they expect us to do that?”
MacLean had originally pleaded not guilty to the charges, but changed his plea to guilty a month or so before the trial was set to begin.
Because offences against Grosvold dated back to 1959, there were no laws that covered her charges and that limited the number of charges laid against him in relation to her abuse.
“I remember thinking about everything that he did to me and he only got two years,” she said. The most charges he received time for were for (my sister). At the time, it made a difference to me because I was thinking I was abused by the age of four on a weekly basis, sometimes three or four times a week, and he got two years.”
But she says going through the court process helped her heal, because their “secret” was finally being told.
“It’s strange. I’ve talked to other victims and they have all felt the same way. No one wants to talk about the secret. Tell it. The very first person you tell it to is a big thing, I say to them. If a person tells you that secret, it’s an honour. We know you can’t fix it. All you have to do is listen.”
Grosvold also found peace by putting her words on paper and writing her feelings in a journal.
“One thing I wrote is that secrets have power. Unless you have been abused, it’s hard to understand. There are the feelings of guilt and shame that we did something wrong,” she said. “I can’t explain it to you. If we share the secret people will see the ugliness inside of us. It’s the ugliness. People will see that I am an ugly person. I thought even myself I was ugly. I was not worthy of anything. It’s a long process to get to the point where someone gets the courage and tells the secret.”
To this day, she continues to tell her story and about how she regained her strength to fight back, but instead of initiating the conversation, she lets a tattoo of a little girl on her left shoulder do the talking.
Grosvold said she found the little girl inside her one day after the trial as she stared into the mirror.
“I was upstairs and I looked in the mirror and it was the weirdest feeling and I said, ‘Where are you?’ I kept staring into my eyes. I made a contact with her. There are some women who don’t want anything to do with her, but I know she is one of the strongest people there could possibly ever be. She survived so much. She is safe now. It’s hard for someone who hasn’t been there, but for someone who has been there, if I say my little girl is afraid, they will know who I am making reference to.”
The tattoo is an image of a little girl with the wind blowing through her hair. Grosvold said it is a close rendition of herself as a child and capturing the wind was important because each time MacLean would abuse her, she would run outside and let the wind cleanse her.
She promised herself and her inner little girl that every time someone made a comment about the tattoo, she would answer with, “She has a story, do you want to hear it?”
Grosvold said most people who have approached her listen to her story and then share their own experiences of abuse.
“The biggest thing for me is I want people to know they are not alone. There is a life after this. This is not who I am,” she said. “I am not Patricia, an abused victim. I am Patricia, a mom, a wife, a worker. I am a survivor. I have survived and I will never allow it to conquer me again. I will never allow my voice not to be heard again. Don will not have the last word, I will.”
Dad "not sure" why he threw 3-month-old daughter off bridge (Newark, New Jersey)
Dad SHAMSID-DIN ABDUR-RAHEEM is a lying @$$wipe. That is all.
http://www.nbcnewyork.com/news/local/Father-Testifies-Deadly-Baby-Bridge-Toss-Shamsid-Din-Abdur-Raheem-168077916.html
NJ Dad Accused of Baby's Bridge Death Testifies
Shamsid-Din Abdur-Raheem told jurors he was not sure why he tossed his daughter off the Driscoll Bridge
Thursday, Aug 30, 2012 | Updated 8:51 PM EDT
A man accused of throwing his 3-month-old daughter off a New Jersey bridge testified at his murder trial Thursday that the child was already dead when he tossed her into the Raritan River.
The Star-Ledger of Newark reports that http://bit.ly/SWWJ2y Shamsid-Din Abdur-Raheem told jurors Thursday that his infant daughter fell to the floor and hit her head during a tussle he had with the baby's maternal grandmother at the woman's East Orange home on Feb. 16, 2010.
Abdur-Raheem admitted taking the child from the grandmother and fleeing with her in his car down the Garden State Parkway.
Abdur-Raheem says he became upset when he noticed the child wasn't breathing and appeared dead.
He told jurors he was not sure why he then tossed his daughter off the Driscoll Bridge.
"I placed her in a (blue) knapsack, rolled down the (passenger side) window, and pushed her out," he said. "I tossed my daughter off the bridge. I don't know why."
When Deputy Attorney General Andrew Fried asked him to demonstrate using a book, Abdur-Raheem refused at first, then took the book and held it for a few seconds before throwing it onto the floor. He then started to cry.
Abdur-Raheem faces murder, attempted murder, kidnapping, endangering the welfare of a child and aggravated assault counts. His trial is in its second week.
Earlier in the week, a state forensic anthropologist testified the skull fractures found on the baby were made at or about the time of death but they were caused by a significant fall and not one of four feet or less.
Abdur-Raheem testified Thursday that he and the baby's grandmother struggled and that the baby fell and hit the back of her head.
http://www.nbcnewyork.com/news/local/Father-Testifies-Deadly-Baby-Bridge-Toss-Shamsid-Din-Abdur-Raheem-168077916.html
NJ Dad Accused of Baby's Bridge Death Testifies
Shamsid-Din Abdur-Raheem told jurors he was not sure why he tossed his daughter off the Driscoll Bridge
Thursday, Aug 30, 2012 | Updated 8:51 PM EDT
A man accused of throwing his 3-month-old daughter off a New Jersey bridge testified at his murder trial Thursday that the child was already dead when he tossed her into the Raritan River.
The Star-Ledger of Newark reports that http://bit.ly/SWWJ2y Shamsid-Din Abdur-Raheem told jurors Thursday that his infant daughter fell to the floor and hit her head during a tussle he had with the baby's maternal grandmother at the woman's East Orange home on Feb. 16, 2010.
Abdur-Raheem admitted taking the child from the grandmother and fleeing with her in his car down the Garden State Parkway.
Abdur-Raheem says he became upset when he noticed the child wasn't breathing and appeared dead.
He told jurors he was not sure why he then tossed his daughter off the Driscoll Bridge.
"I placed her in a (blue) knapsack, rolled down the (passenger side) window, and pushed her out," he said. "I tossed my daughter off the bridge. I don't know why."
When Deputy Attorney General Andrew Fried asked him to demonstrate using a book, Abdur-Raheem refused at first, then took the book and held it for a few seconds before throwing it onto the floor. He then started to cry.
Abdur-Raheem faces murder, attempted murder, kidnapping, endangering the welfare of a child and aggravated assault counts. His trial is in its second week.
Earlier in the week, a state forensic anthropologist testified the skull fractures found on the baby were made at or about the time of death but they were caused by a significant fall and not one of four feet or less.
Abdur-Raheem testified Thursday that he and the baby's grandmother struggled and that the baby fell and hit the back of her head.
"Good" dad who slit infant son's throat gets 5 years in jail (Calgary, Canada)
The usual indulgence of an abuser daddy. Notice that we don't even pretend here that this was mental illness. Nope, this is your typical case of Daddy punishing Mom for her real or imaginary "sins" by committing acts of violence against a baby. He knew full well what he was doing, and just didn't give a sh**. Wouldn't even allow the baby to get medical help after his stinking Daddy Drama complete with police standoff.
But as we often see, UNNAMED DAD is getting off easy. Everybody is sucking up to him with bullcrap about him really being a "good and caring father." And he'll be out of jail so he can further terrorize women and children in practically no time at all.
http://www.ctvnews.ca/canada/father-who-slit-infant-son-s-throat-sentenced-to-5-years-in-jail-1.938795
Father who slit infant son's throat sentenced to 5 years in jail
A Calgary dad who slashed his infant son's neck and stomach in a jealous rage has been sentenced to five years in jail. Kari Eyles has more.
The Canadian Press
Published Friday, Aug. 31, 2012 9:32PM EDT
CALGARY -- An Alberta judge has sentenced a man to five years in prison for slashing his infant son on the throat and abdomen with a butcher knife, saying the father's violent actions were spawned by "anger, rage and jealousy" toward his wife.
The 33-year-old man, who cannot be named to protect the child's identity, was charged after police officers responded to a 911 call at a home in the city's southeast on Aug. 13, 2011.
They found an angry and agitated man with a baby inside the home. The baby had been cut with a kitchen knife and was rushed to hospital. The officers provided first aid to the child who was in critical condition. He is now in good health and home with his family
"In a very cold-blooded and calculating manner he put him on the floor, undid his clothes and cut him twice," said Judge Mike Dinkel.
"The accused used the attack on the child to inflict pain on the mother. The child was a tool," Dinkel said.
"It was based on anger, rage and jealousy over the mistaken belief that his wife ... was cheating on him. He knew what he was doing and intended to do harm."
Dinkel said the cut on the 11-month-old boy's throat was 15 centimetres long and the wound to his abdomen was 20 centimetres long. He said the child lost about one-quarter of the blood in his body and the slash to the throat was only a centimetre away from major veins and arteries.
He said another aggravating factor was the accused not providing any medical assistance to his son. He tried to stop police from entering the home, the judge said.
"He brandished the bloody butcher knife and demanded to be shot. He knew the child was in medical distress."
The accused, who sat quietly in the prisoner's docket wearing a blue jumpsuit, pleaded guilty to aggravated assault. The sentence was mitigated by his early guilty plea and that he had previously been a good and caring father. He also has the support of Calgary's Sudanese community, the judge noted. Several members were in attendance at the sentencing Friday.
With time already served the man still has nearly four years left on his sentence.
The Crown had been asking for between six and seven years while the defence wanted a sentence in the 2 1/2-year range.
His lawyer, Alain Hepner wasn't surprised at the judge's decision.
"This child was 11 months old and he was the parent. That is the crux of the matter really from the judge's point of view and understandably," said Hepner.
"I think he was prepared for any sentence the judge was going to impose. He felt the remorse and felt he should be punished for what happened."
Crown lawyer Margot Engley, who called the crime "a horrific case," was satisfied with the outcome.
"It's such a serious case and we were seeking more time than what the judge sentenced him to, however it is a significant amount of time," she said.
"We can't be happy with it but we might be satisfied."
But as we often see, UNNAMED DAD is getting off easy. Everybody is sucking up to him with bullcrap about him really being a "good and caring father." And he'll be out of jail so he can further terrorize women and children in practically no time at all.
http://www.ctvnews.ca/canada/father-who-slit-infant-son-s-throat-sentenced-to-5-years-in-jail-1.938795
Father who slit infant son's throat sentenced to 5 years in jail
A Calgary dad who slashed his infant son's neck and stomach in a jealous rage has been sentenced to five years in jail. Kari Eyles has more.
The Canadian Press
Published Friday, Aug. 31, 2012 9:32PM EDT
CALGARY -- An Alberta judge has sentenced a man to five years in prison for slashing his infant son on the throat and abdomen with a butcher knife, saying the father's violent actions were spawned by "anger, rage and jealousy" toward his wife.
The 33-year-old man, who cannot be named to protect the child's identity, was charged after police officers responded to a 911 call at a home in the city's southeast on Aug. 13, 2011.
They found an angry and agitated man with a baby inside the home. The baby had been cut with a kitchen knife and was rushed to hospital. The officers provided first aid to the child who was in critical condition. He is now in good health and home with his family
"In a very cold-blooded and calculating manner he put him on the floor, undid his clothes and cut him twice," said Judge Mike Dinkel.
"The accused used the attack on the child to inflict pain on the mother. The child was a tool," Dinkel said.
"It was based on anger, rage and jealousy over the mistaken belief that his wife ... was cheating on him. He knew what he was doing and intended to do harm."
Dinkel said the cut on the 11-month-old boy's throat was 15 centimetres long and the wound to his abdomen was 20 centimetres long. He said the child lost about one-quarter of the blood in his body and the slash to the throat was only a centimetre away from major veins and arteries.
He said another aggravating factor was the accused not providing any medical assistance to his son. He tried to stop police from entering the home, the judge said.
"He brandished the bloody butcher knife and demanded to be shot. He knew the child was in medical distress."
The accused, who sat quietly in the prisoner's docket wearing a blue jumpsuit, pleaded guilty to aggravated assault. The sentence was mitigated by his early guilty plea and that he had previously been a good and caring father. He also has the support of Calgary's Sudanese community, the judge noted. Several members were in attendance at the sentencing Friday.
With time already served the man still has nearly four years left on his sentence.
The Crown had been asking for between six and seven years while the defence wanted a sentence in the 2 1/2-year range.
His lawyer, Alain Hepner wasn't surprised at the judge's decision.
"This child was 11 months old and he was the parent. That is the crux of the matter really from the judge's point of view and understandably," said Hepner.
"I think he was prepared for any sentence the judge was going to impose. He felt the remorse and felt he should be punished for what happened."
Crown lawyer Margot Engley, who called the crime "a horrific case," was satisfied with the outcome.
"It's such a serious case and we were seeking more time than what the judge sentenced him to, however it is a significant amount of time," she said.
"We can't be happy with it but we might be satisfied."
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